so today i was my parents’ little helper at their booth in a shopping mall.
I was just sitting down quietly using my phone and then there was this man, (i’ve never seen before. he looked like say, maybe in his 30s?) who approached me and asked for my name, age and where i was from… and gestured for a handshake. i hesitated shaking his hand because 1) i don’t like shaking strangers’ hands unless there’s a mutual friend around, 2) Germs. especially because i don’t know him which made it seem like his hand is automatically dirtier than mine. & 3) i didn’t want to look gullible/vulnerable. (i have my pride too, as a young lady)
moving on, after that he said he’ll come by again and chat with me. which i was hoping not.
but he did come by in the evening. And after he bought some stuff from me, he asked for my number. I asked why. He said he wanted to call me and chat. (yucks.)
i was racing to think of some excuse like “sorry i don’t have a phone” or “sorry, my boyfriend wouldn’t be happy about this”. Unfortunately, both are lies and i don’t want to lie.
And so, i politely declined, guilty for making him feel rejected and looking bad. But i kept reminding myself that 1) i do not know him, 2) I have the rights to say NO, & 3) age difference too wide. Probably more than a decade older than me.
Okay, my skin was crawling and had goosebumps. But i’m really thankful i learnt how to say “NO”. (: